Analyzing The Cause Of My Discontent In the Past Year
Also, that’s making most people feel dejected`
This blog is going to be more like my journal entry.
So let me start with the date.
25th August 2021
Last week has been tense in terms of international politics. It was unsettling to watch the Taliban take hold of Afghanistan. Twenty years of war and tonnes of money spent by Uncle Sam, all for nothing. That’s a debate for another day.
The most shocking thing for me from the visuals that emerged from the chaos was the people falling out of a US plane. One of them was an Afghan teenager, Zaki Anwari, who played for the national team.
What could have possibly been going on in his mind before clinging to the plane? Did he really think he could get out of the country?
Maybe, he thought he could never get to play soccer again, so what he did was make a desperate attempt to flee the country. In a way, he chose to die rather than living under the cruel regime of the Taliban. Heartbreaking. Tragic.
What I have come to realise is that humans do not like to get controlled. Be it the government, the school, your parents or your employer. Most people reading this piece might never face what Zaki Anwari had to, and I hope not. But one of our primary sources of discontent stems from an outside force trying to control our lives.
I am quite sensitive to Zaki’s situation. In no way am I drawing a comparison of his with mine.
In recent times, Coronavirus has been one of the most controlling factors for not just me, but I assume for many of us. All the plans I made, totally fucked. It may sound like a rant, but it is what it is.
I had been planning to move to Canada for quite a while. And, finally, when things were about to get going, the second wave of Covid took over during April this year, delaying the process further.
Although, there have been certain things that materialised during the lockdown. I could finally accomplish my goal of writing a full-fledged novel. Good for me!
Having said that, coronavirus has derailed my perfect plan to relocate and begin a new life. (Opt for Medium Partner Program as it is not applicable for India). Sometimes, things do not go the way we plan. And that’s okay Vaibhav! I have been telling this to myself for the last six months.
Lessons learnt
I believe that there are only two ways in which one can tackle such a situation.
1) Acceptance
To learn and to cope, that’s all we can do. It is our responsibility to make ourselves get over or move on from the things that did not go in our favour. This is applicable for scenarios that are beyond our control.
Like losing a loved one. We can’t bring someone back from the dead, can we? It is painful, and there is nothing that you can do about it. There is no mistake of yours of what happened, but to recover from it is your fucking duty.
2) Radical change
It is absolutely human to feel sad, but the idea is not to dwell on it. It is a reason that we constantly feed ourselves for not making a change.
What Zaki Anwari did was an act of desperation. He couldn’t fathom the idea of being controlled. He wanted to make a change that could help him to get out of the unfavourable situation. I do not blame him for clinging on the plane, though it was way too extreme.
Most people reading this article would not face such a situation in life. But, a lot of them would dwell and complain about their problems without making any change.
Don’t like your job? Fucking make a change. Acquire skills for something you might like and go for it.
External forces will always try to dominate, it is up to you to make that radical change and gain control over your life.
